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Trust Part 6

Trust Part 6

“I met Mark falling through the air,” Shirley joked on her wedding day in 1998. By then she had done 88 jumps in her pink and blue sky-diving suit. The total commitment once you leap out of that plane always struck me – what kind of trust was this, other than the total absolute thing? …

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Trust Part 5

Trust Part 5

“How does Shirley react to the news in 2013 of her cancer and 10% chance to survive? Disbelief numbs her. She talks and cries. She looks back over her life. In the small hours of the morning she decides. Then she phones: “Mum,” she says, “now it is time to cut my crap.” With impressive …

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Trust Part 4

Trust Part 4

Right now I drink deep – I have to, as Chronic Fatigue bites after two more presentations of the amazing Shirley story and before two more. I’m just sitting with Him – so cool – and drinking deep.Shirley’s eleven months of brutal cancer had her drinking deep time after time after time. When she couldn’t …

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Trust Part 3

Trust Part 3

“If God is trustworthy,” Shirley said, “I can believe His promises – that He will not let my foot slip, that He will never leave me nor forsake me, that He has plans for me… There were times in the hospital I was so afraid and I just needed to cling to a promise. Then …

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Trust Part 2

Trust Part 2

I was watering my hydrangeas and I saw a spider launch himself from the gutter above and absail down on a thread. He was caught by the wind and swept about but totally secure. I marvel at his trust in one single thread. It’s amazing to realize that for so long now I have trusted …

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Trust Part 1

Trust Part 1

Shirley was seriously ill for eleven months – what about trust, Thy – how did you do as far as trusting was concerned?” I really had to think. And I realized by the time all of this happened God had taught me a bit about trusting. It took a lot of doing, but being an …

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A Short Bio of Shirley – Part 2

A Short Bio of Shirley – Part 2

University life begins for Shirley in February 1993 in beautiful Stellenbosch. She’s eighteen and life looks more promising. Shirley in Stellenbosch Shirley moves into a residence and then shares a flat with Loren. The two become like sisters. Years later Loren and I chat about those years over coffee.  “Oh, Thy,” Loren says, “We laughed …

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A Short Bio of Shirley – Part 1

A Short Bio of Shirley – Part 1

In 1970 Brian and I decide it’s time to start a family. But we can’t fall pregnant. The five years that follow are tough. In the end we put our names down for adoption. Two more years of heart-anguish go by. Then an amazed gynaecologist has to admit we might be pregnant. “I can’t believe …

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Meet Thy – Who wrote the book

Meet Thy – Who wrote the book

The next bio gives a bit of my background : Thy: As I said, Brian and I met on a blind date. I can’t remember if I explained my name to him, as I usually do whenever I meet someone new. I say, “My name’s Thy.” “What?” they ask, often close to staring. “Yes, its …

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Welcome To My Blog

Welcome To My Blog

I’ve been looking forward to having a place where we can chat about Shirley’s (and therefore my) journey with cancer. As I journey on one of the things I’d like to share is my experience with grief. To provide more background to the book, I open the blog with three short bios: Meet Shirley’s Dad …

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